My Secret Language







   For December 18 people, life is written large. Dealers in grand designs, they think in far-reaching terms but don’t overlook the details. As a matter of fact, their long-term projects are built painstakingly and with deep commitment. Their work achievements are often as long as they are broad and deep. Yet despite their devotion, they may be accused of superficiality through attempting too much, as if others believe that in producing in quantity, depth is beyond their grasp.

December 18 individuals are in it for the long haul. Year after year they stick to what they are doing with great persistence. This can pose problems for them when their work is not turning out well. Refusing to give up on a losing proposition can be a real albatross around their neck. This attitude can apply to their friendships or love relationships as well. This is not to mean that those born on this day should give up easily on friends, but that they should recognize when others are unwilling or unable to change, and tailor their expectations accordingly.

December 18 people must be careful not to dominate the lives of those close to them. Although they do not appear to be needy or dependent individuals, they can make great demands on others. Often their self-absorbed personalities make the greatest demand of all—not to be bothered.

Many December 18 people live in their own rarefied, electrically charged world of complex plans and high ideals. They must be free to let their minds roam and to push their bodies to the limit. Rarely will they ask either encouragement or permission to do this. As children, they need parents who can simply back off and leave them to their own devices, while providing a stable and loving home environment. As parents, they themselves must remember to provide structure but also freedom and gentler guidance to their own children, who may suffer from growing up in their large shadow.

Less highly evolved December 18 people can tear themselves apart with unrealistic ambitions, dreams, wishes and desires. They may have to limit themselves a bit and tone down the scope of their projects to a more attainable level. What December 18 people need most is to set up a comfortable and efficient base of operations and, hopefully, find a sympathetic mate who is not only a loving partner but an understanding friend.

For those born on this day who have not yet discovered the exceptional potential within them—perhaps out of fear of their own power—establishing themselves in a lifestyle and work environment that suits their nature and talents is the key.


    December 18 people must avoid pushing themselves beyond their limits. Even recognizing that these limits exist can be a positive first step. Those born on this day may be prone to burnout, but also to getting off track and living in a very unreal, overly romantic world with barely a link to reality. Maintaining a sense of objectivity is crucial. Therefore they can depend heavily on the honesty of a partner, friend, therapist, teacher or clergyman to help them through difficult times. Physical wear and tear may result (primarily from neglect) but usually the primary difficulties for those born on December 18 are psychological. Eating a well-balanced diet, particularly stabilizing grains and vegetables, and cutting down on sugar and alcohol as well as any reality-impairing or “mind-expanding” drugs is essential to their well-being. Only mild or moderate exercise of a non-competitive nature is advised, along with frequent and particularly sedentary, relaxing vacations.


    Those born on the 18th of the month are ruled by the number 9 (1+8=9), and by the planet Mars. The number 9 is a highly influential number, and grants great power to the career efforts of December 18 people. The combined influence of Jupiter (ruler of Sagittarius) and Mars lends abundant reserves of energy to their undertakings. Responsibility is demanded of December 18 people not to misuse these energies or let them get out of hand, since their influence on others can be so great.


    The 18th card of the Major Arcana is The Moon, which primarily represents the world of dreams, emotions and the unconscious. Positive attributes include sensitivity, empathy and emotional understanding. Negative qualities include emotional malleability, passivity and lack of ego.


Learn to enjoy the little things, the simple pleasures of life.

Try to be more understanding of others.

Apply your ethical standards to yourself and concentrate more of your energies on personal growth.

Find a way to blend in when necessary and avoid ruffling feathers.

Personality of this week…

Those born during the Week of the Titan think on a grand scale. Their minds are usually geared to big projects, whether planning a family get-together or mapping out a business strategy. Disliking pettiness in all forms, they see the total picture first, and generally avoid getting hung up on the details. These people are big-hearted, and give shamelessly, but are realistic enough to expect something in return.

They reach for the stars, but they keep both feet solidly on the ground. Their ambitions and aspirations are firmly rooted in the here and now. Whether small or large of frame, they are physically imposing, and make their presence felt in any gathering. The persona they project is big, and hard to take in all at once. This feeling that they are difficult to walk around can also extend to the sense that they can’t easily be gotten out of the way—can’t be bamboozled by airy schemes or faulty reasoning. Those personally involved with these powerful individuals will inevitably have to reckon with playing a subordinate role.

It can be dangerous to come between these individuals and their goals, for once they have made up their mind they move with lightning speed. Their friends and family learn soon enough what a given mood foretells—quiet or action. The people who get along best with them try to read their emotional weather report at the beginning of the day, for it may well determine the outcome of any project at the day’s end. Their more disturbing aspects may have to be overlooked or ignored in the cause of group harmony and effective action.

There are moody and disturbing elements to their personality that may strain living and working relationships. If such individuals are depressed, they are hard to budge. They often internalize external pressures and may, in consequence, exhibit chronic (rather than acute) physical and mental symptoms. Those close to them will eventually have to try to cheer them up, or get them to take a more positive view of their lives, but often to no avail—for these people actually find these dark moods an essential way of withdrawing from the world to chew things over. Extremely thoughtful, they can ruminate over a problem or plan for weeks or months before finally coming up with a solution. In this activity they are best left alone.

Since their emotions come from a very deep place, their eruptions of feeling can be nothing short of volcanic. It is extremely important, then, that they spend time with people who are sympathetic to them, and with whom they can periodically unburden themselves by discussing whatever is on their mind. Like a pressure cooker, smoldering crater or grinding tectonic plate, they need to let energy loose in small doses if they are to avoid being shaken apart by the “big one.” Complaining is actually healthy for these people, and those who understand them welcome their occasional fussing and grumbling; the alternative is a good deal worse.

They are drawn to magical and ecstatic experiences, not only in their personal lives but also in their careers. What basically attracts them, after all, is the impossible challenge, and they love to pull off miracles both minor and major before their astonished colleagues’ eyes. Yet they cannot be called competitive, since there seems to be so little to fear from their fortified citadels that no real competition is possible. That outlook may seem egotistical, but it gives some idea of their self-confidence and assurance.

And yet, behind the massive bulwark of their personality, somewhere in a remote back passage lurks insecurity. This is their greatest enemy. A wee voice still murmurs from time to time, “Are you really as rock-solid as you seem?” The answer, of course, is no, but the world is usually fooled until a crack appears in the Mount Rushmore–like facade. Everyone has some kind of insecurity, of course, so it should come as no surprise that they do, too; what is important, however, is their inability to recognize or deal with it. This lack of self-awareness may be the high price they pay for their peace of mind.

The most successful lovers and mates for them are often those who can weave a magical spell around them, after first lulling them into letting their guard down. They actually enjoy being enchanted by those very special individuals who can lighten their ponderous workload or their crushing personal responsibilities. Their mates will benefit from their protective and capable ways but can also come to feel imprisoned, and may chafe under the feeling that the full expression of their own talents and abilities is denied.

Those born during the Week of the Titan are so focused and single-minded by nature that there is usually little difficulty in distinguishing between their desires and their needs, which are in some cases identical. Those emotionally involved with them know what they demand, and usually face only one decision—comply or resist. Negotiation or compromise is not in the picture. Still, like the giant in a fairy tale, they can be fooled, often without finding out about it until later.

Personality of this month…

The Month of the Voyager is the ninth month of the Personology year. Those firey individuals born this month symbolize the growing philosophical outlook of the human spirit—its expansiveness, optimism and refusal to get bogged down in details (i.e., its capacity to see the big picture).

The philosopher in these folks may let fly their arrow straight to the heart of the matter. They will seek to ennoble the human condition—their arrows can also carry us all to the stars. They may err on the side of excess (going too far or too fast) but they urge us not to succumb to pettiness or base actions. They encourage themselves and others to see the best side of things.

People born during the Month of the Voyager transmute fixed, powerful and controlling energies into aspiring, earthy and pragmatic ones.

Their personality can be likened to those fully empowered individuals who have begun to move away from the world of family and career responsibilities to devote themselves to personal or universal concerns. Such an orientation is underlined by their expansiveness, optimism and desire to see the whole picture.

In addition, honesty of intention and belief are strong ethical principles which they apply to themselves as well as to others. But although they generally have a positive outlook on life, too often they get caught up in disputes due to their idealistic opinions. Their electric energies are prodigious but invariably flag when crucial self-motivation and self-confidence decline.

These people are eternal students, constantly seeking to know more about the world. Not surprisingly, they are particularly interested in nature and animals—the latter can come to represent an ideal which they feel humans would do well to emulate. Many of them go so far as to ultimately reject many of society’s values in favor of a higher truth. They must be careful not to be overly condemning of others who do not share their beliefs.

Those born during the Month of the Voyager have a legendary reputation for movement and travel, but when they find their groove, they can be remarkably content to stay in one place. Within the confines of their home, they feel comfortable to explore the realms of thought as well as to develop new, challenging projects. Rarely bored, these people constantly seek out new ways in which they can express themselves.

Concepts of this season…

Beauty, Drama & Criticism, Revolution

Their motto…

I Weigh, I Control, I Philosophize

Elements of this season…

Air, Water, Fire

Personality of this season…

The fall equinox usually occurs around September 23rd in the northern hemisphere. At this time of harvest, days and nights are again of equal length. As fall wears on, however, the days grow shorter and the nights longer. Fall is the third quarter of the yearly cycle, extending from the fall equinox to the winter solstice.

Fall is traditionally the period at which time the final harvest of summer growth takes place—afterwards, much of the ground is covered by leaves or mulch for the winter. A decomposition of plant life now begins by which the earth is enriched. Most of the farmland lies fallow during this period but some winter crops can be planted. Temperatures begin to drop as the sun shares less of itself, and freezing nights are evinced by morning frost. Some animal life goes into hibernation or migrates to a warmer climate. Deciduous trees change color in riotous displays, and an autumn nip is in the air. The rhythm of life of this quadrant is quicker and more survival-oriented. High-energy or bulk diets are preferred here (both by animals and humans). The bounty of foodstuffs is waning, and life again becomes more difficult.

Generally speaking, those born in the fall demonstrate both a greater ability and need to control their external environment. Autumnal people are rarely as enthusiastic as those born in the spring and summer, being rather more selective and critical. Maintenance is the overriding consideration here rather than initiation or development of new projects. In some respects, autumnal people tend to be more introverted and thoughtful than springtime and summertime people. Feelings are kept under stricter control. Yet, social urges are more maturely and fully expressed here also—friendships, group and community activities, direct working contributions to society are important at this time. Autumnal people manifest a strong urge to share and take part in serious and fulfilling relationships.

Those born in the fall have a heightened awareness of what is going on around them, perhaps greater than that of any other seasonal group. Impulse and emotion may be lower key in autumnal people, but often more subtle and complex. Both self–understanding and self–control are given high priority.

Autumnal folks tend to be more concerned with nurturing ideas and with survival than with bringing new life into the world. Childbearing and childrearing generally speaking may not hold as central a place for autumnal people as for those born at other times of the year. Sexuality and affection, on the other hand, may hold a deeper meaning and be highly valued by autumnal people. Rather than being positive per se, the attitude of those born in this period is realistic, and positive only when justified by the course of external events.


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